When Love Calls - From a Relative

Have you ever encountered a friendship or a relative that you simply don't understand how to relate to them? No matter how present you are and want to be; sometimes it feels like the two of you are missing the same vibrational beat.

I recently wrote an email to my aunt explaining to her a feeling that came over me while I was in the middle of preparing dinner for my family. I immediately and abruptly (as I always do when I write) removed myself from the kitchen and sat down to write her. What came out of me in the email was something that I felt needed to be said or else I would not have said it. It is amazing. No matter what the words display when we accept perceived challenges, love and forgiveness should be the motivators behind those words.

Then, I took a deep breath and let it go. When love calls, we must answer loudly, boldly and we must answer with sincere and compassionate love. In response, you receive love and most importantly we both radically forgive.

This was my aunt's final response: I love you... (I didn't actually know how to paste the animation in here but this smiley face opened up with the words... I love you).
My response to her: We are what we look for in others... I love you with my BIG heart (words spoken by my daughter, Ms. J.)

Listen to your heart: Ky-Mani Marley - Who We Are

When Love Calls - From Your Children

Shopping is one of those things that I find as a chore most of the time because there are usually limitations on how much money I could or should spend. Hey, it’s called budgeting. However, I need to satisfy my ego’s need to spend something after three months of avoiding every retail store in sight. As I fly through the aisle determining what my allotted money could buy, I say, “Jannah needs a new pair of shoes.” I always feel better about spending when it’s for my daughter.

Here I stand in the shoe department deciphering what kind of shoes she “needs.” Yes, they have her size in the Dora shoe that lights up when she walks. I was excited until Jannah began screaming as loud as she could. “Mommy, I’m hungry – I want my daddy – No, I want those shoes – Yes, I want those shoes – My leg hurt – Mommy, Mommy, Mommy.” After I “shhh” her a couple of times, she cried louder and became resistant to my voice. Instantly, I felt that she needed my attention for whatever reason, she needed it. I turned the cart to me and sat down on one of the stools in the tight aisle and I allowed all my disappointment that “my” shopping was interrupted to release from my thoughts. I allowed judgment to vacate my mental train of thought and I looked at her while she screamed and cried. I looked into those beautiful, large dark brown eyes filled with tears without a saying a word. I looked with joy and love in my heart. I was absorbed in the present moment of accepting that at this time and at this moment, my daughter needed my attention – my presence. I gave it to her. After several minutes, she said, “Mommy, I feel better now.” I said, “Good. I love you.” “I love you with my BIG heart, mommy.”

You see, our children have the same Stillness in them as we have. We all have God in us whether big or small, fat or thin, white or black. We always need to become one with our children especially at a time when we perceive difficulty. This is the time when they most need it. In doing so, our children will also learn to depend on their Being to make choices in their lives as they grow. Their decisions will not come from their heads, but it will come from a place of serenity - their Being – our direct connect to God and they will have good practice because they practice with you, their parents.

Become one with your children by looking pass their ego of I need to do “this” to get a reaction like “that.” That is their belief system which is their ego. It’s amazing how early we begin developing our egos. Become one with your children by showing and recognizing how beautiful and incredible they are simply by Stillness. Feel the love for them and with them when they call for your attention. That’s peace. That’s God!

When love calls, always answer with love.

Sending a waterfall of love!

When Love Calls...

Love may call late at night, early in the morning, when you are in a business meeting, when you are taking a shower or come at a time when you don’t want to answer. When love calls, always answer.

Unconditional love may be to tell someone, “no.” Love calls from many types of people in and out of your life. The call may come from a complete stranger or it may come from a relative or spouse. In any event, when love calls, answer loudly, boldly, clearly and completely.

You see, when love calls, you answer without judgment, without fear and without reservation. Answering the call of love without judgment means accepting the moment of what is being asked of you, which could be to just simply listen without judgment. Answering the call of love without fear means accepting the responsibility that you care and love regardless of one’s trial or tribulation. Answering the call of love without reservation means to not hesitate to give loving and constructive criticism.

Listen, when all our responses are done out of love, there is no remorse, there is no administering pain and most importantly, we are acknowledging the beautiful Being in others – the same beautiful Being in ourselves.

When love calls, always answer with love.

This piece was inspired by Kem’s – Love Calls. Listen to your heart on the right-side column.

Sending a waterfall of love!